15 September 2022
If you are feeling affected by the death of Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II, then you’re not alone. Although we might feel sad at the loss of the person, we may find ourselves experiencing feelings of personal loss and a past bereavement too.
There is no ‘right way’ to grieve, no rules about how somebody will feel, and how long it will take. Grief affects us in different ways. When we are bereaved, we are likely to feel waves of emotions as we come to terms with loss. These can include sadness, guilt, shock and anger. All are normal after a death.
The bereavement charity Cruse Bereavement Care has clear guidance on the best ways to help someone bereaved. Although it may be difficult – and it may seem to others that the grieving person doesn’t want to talk – it really is best for them to keep communicating in whatever way they can.
There are also a range of helpful listening services available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week:
- The Samaritans are here to listen at any time of the day or night. Call 116 123.
- The helpline team at The Silver Line can offer information, friendship and advice to older people. Call 0800 4 70 80 90.
- Get confidential 24/7 text support from Shout for any time when you need immediate assistance. Just text “SHOUT” to 85258 for free.
London’s digital wellbeing service, Good Thinking, has a helpful bereavement section on its website about loss and grief, including resources to help you cope with loss and support others who are grieving.
You can get further support from NHS-approved online resources. For example, to help build resilience and maintain good wellbeing, there’s a range of resources for everyone at Every Mind Matters.
Whilst grief is a natural response to loss, some people may need additional, specialised support to help them to cope. Anyone who is feeling overwhelmed by their grief can call their local NHS urgent mental health helpline. You can call for 24-hour advice and support for you, your child, your parent, or someone you care for - support is available for all ages.
If you do not require urgent support but are still concerned about your mental health, contacting your GP is a good place to start.
Thrive LDN has created a space called Help Yourself and Others to help share ideas and resources to help improve our wellbeing or to find out how to support others.
Remember - you are not alone, support is available.
We at CNWL produced this material about grief.
Grief can bring up a range of emotions, such as anger, guilt or loneliness. No one grieves in the same way. Mindfulness of emotions can help you to stand back from the emotions you are experiencing and understand it, rather than avoiding or being scared of it. Learning to accept these experiences can help reduce the distress associated with the emotions.
Our Talking Therapies service is here if you need any support.